You know…

…I just thought of something. When I decide I want a toy, or a car, or a computer part, or some sunglasses, I go buy it. I mean, I hem and haw, and maybe do some price shopping, but if I want something, I get it. End of story.

Take the car for example. I wanted a convertible. And I looked at a shitload of them. Seriously. Lots fo research. The Saab didn’t feel right, the BMW looked OK, but something wasn’t quite there, and when I saw this one on the lot, I knew it was the one. All I needed to be sure was to drive it. And damn if I wasn’t right.

The Van was the same. I knew I wanted the Kia Van. Did lots of research, did some price compares with other vans in the same class, and then went to drive the Kia with the intent that I buy it. The Tacoma I had prior to that was no different. Neither was the Nissan 4×4 or the RX7 before that. I knew I was gonna buy ’em as long as I liked how they drove.

i do it with computers, games, clothes…so tell me, why am I not so motivated when it comes to people related things, and not objects? Why is it I can get whatever it is I want – but I can’t talk to Renee about all my feelings? or it’s so tough to talk to managers and peers about things I think need changed, or are wrong? or why I didn’t tell one of my co-workers to STFU and deal with her issues and be done with it?

(Side note – said co-worker is gonna shit herself when she sees the car – I think I like that idea)

What’s the difference? Why can I know what I want and go out and get it when it relates to things, but can’t be as focused and driven with people?

Maybe I’m comparing apples and oranges…

About Kevin Sonney

Kevin Sonney - who, contrary to popular opinion was NOT raised by wolves - grew up in central North Carolina. He fell into the technology field by accident in 1991, when he gave up the wild and crazy lifestyle of an on-air AM radio DJ to become a mundane technical support monkey. The technology industry has never really recovered from this. Kevin has worked for such names as IBM, Red Hat, webslingerZ, and Lulu Technologies (we won't mention the ones that didn't survive the experience). He currently works as a Linux Administrator for Apptio. In his spare time he rescues stray animals and plays video games with his two sons. His wife, we're sad to say, helps him get past the really hard bits. Kevin is still not very mundane, he just got better at hiding it.
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3 Responses to You know…

  1. measured_chaos says:

    You are comparing apples and oranges. Acquiring things is very different than interpersonal skills.

    I also don’t think anyone can answer those questions but you. Finding out what is holding you back and dealing with it might be a good thing. On the other hands telling coworkers to STFU is hardly ever a good thing. I don’t know of anyone who can openly address everything that goes through their head with the other people in their life. God knows, I can’t. I tell Jason 98% but 2% is still mine. Everyone else in my life gets between 2 and 47% with the exception of , and . They get about 50-72% depending on what it is, my mood, their mood, etc.

    So basically, you are perfectly normal. If you aren’t getting needs and important wants met, I’d say definitely investigate why you are holding yourself back.

  2. maywee says:

    People can be confrontational, objects cannot.

  3. alchemist says:

    And I really, really, really try to avoid confrontation, unless absolutely necissary.

    We hates it, yes we does.

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