Weekly concerns

Should I be concerned that in the past week, the girl who didn’t hardly drink before she got pregnant (the second time) finished off :three glasses of Wine with dinner Sunday and a wine cooler a night M-F?

Should I be concerned that when I was making the grocery list, she said “Thank God” when I added wine coolers to the list?

I can understand maybe one after a hard day, but is every day so hard she needs one to relax? OK, she didn’t have one Saturday, but I was home all day Saturday, and I offered to share a bottle of the good wine with her.
If I ask her about it, she will be defensive. This I know. She’s always defensive.

It’s like when I asked her about the chores last Sunday. She immediately started “well, the kids won’t let me…..” This is the first excuse as to why all the dinners when ‘m at work come out of the freezer or a can. Mostly from the freezer. And the first reason why the laundry rarely gets done, unless I make an issue/example of it, or she’s out of clothes.

But something positive happened after I talked to her. She doesn’t bitch when I say “I know you’re trying to relax, but would you please help with…” after Ray goes to bed. We’ll see how long that lasts.

I’m trying to be understanding, I really am. But her family aren’t drinkers. Hell, My family aren’t drinkers. There’s still beerk leftover from the playoff run in the fridge. it’s really kind of out of character for her, I think.

I probably shouldn’t worry. Well, not until it moves to two a day.

I wonder if she would say something to me if I came home from work and drank a beer every night, rain or shine, good day or bad….

About Kevin Sonney

Kevin Sonney - who, contrary to popular opinion was NOT raised by wolves - grew up in central North Carolina. He fell into the technology field by accident in 1991, when he gave up the wild and crazy lifestyle of an on-air AM radio DJ to become a mundane technical support monkey. The technology industry has never really recovered from this. Kevin has worked for such names as IBM, Red Hat, webslingerZ, and Lulu Technologies (we won't mention the ones that didn't survive the experience). He currently works as a Linux Administrator for Apptio. In his spare time he rescues stray animals and plays video games with his two sons. His wife, we're sad to say, helps him get past the really hard bits. Kevin is still not very mundane, he just got better at hiding it.
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2 Responses to Weekly concerns

  1. catherine says:

    Personally, I wouldn’t worry about one OR two a day. I understand that she didn’t drink at all before but really, there’s no harm in a couple of drinks a day. Especially wine coolers. It’s not like she’s drinking vodka on the rocks. It may help her take a bit of the edge off or she just may like the taste of it.

    As far as the chores, god, I understand not being able to get to them. I have my mom come over so I can so come laundry and clean up a bit. I’m thankful I have a housekeeper that comes every other week ’cause the last thing I ever want to do is vacuum or clean bathrooms. As far as dinner, I don’t remember the last time I ever cooked dinner for Alan. Then again, we’re both not big dinner eaters and we prefer to have light dinners but I know Alan doesn’t expect me to have dinner waiting for him when he comes home. Maybe it’s because when he met me, he knew I didn’t like to cook. He fixes his own dinner and I fix my own. Sometimes, we eat the same thing. Are you angry that dinner isn’t made because she USED to do it and not she just doesn’t anymore? You have two kids now, right? I struggle with one, I can’t imagine having two.

  2. alchemist says:

    yeah, I’m trying hard not to worry. it might not be a big deal. We’ll see.

    The chores – we have none of that. I’d kill for domestic help, but we can’t afford it. Mostly so I wouldn’t have to hear her bitch or me have to do some of it.

    Dinners – We cooked, each taking turns, before I got this job. About a week into it – about the time my schedule changed, She said it was ‘too hard” to cook with both kids, and she wasn’t going to any more, and that I shoudl go buy frozen meals for her and Raymond. At a sale price of $2/person/meal, that not too bad, I guess.

    Maybe I just see it as general laziness. An excuse. She doesn’t want to do something, “the kids won’t let me” and so she’ll sit in front of the computer or cross stitch instead. She’s doing that now, although jacob is sleeping on her at the moment.

    Oh, and yeah, he’ll be a year old in two weeks, still shares our bed, still uses her as his napping place.

    At least at four, you can talk to Ray and get the idea across, althuogh he’s having listening issues today. He just wants to play, play, play, even if you cannot, and seems to think that asking isn’t needed…..

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